It’s time to pen this column again and words seem hard to come to my mind. Today four months ago is when our dear son-in-law Mose lost his battle to the injuries from the accident. It has been harder for daughter Susan as time goes on. I am sure anyone that has been through this can agree with her. She said, “Sometimes the hurt is so bad that I don’t know if I can keep going. I know God wants me to, and my children need me, and that’s what keeps me going.” Oh, the pain in a mother’s heart when her child is hurting. I’m so thankful for the comfort of prayer and a God who sees and hears our cry.
Little Ryan, 20 months, likes to follow Grandpa around outside. Sunday night we had to laugh watching him. When Joe put his hands in his pockets, he would, too. When Joe put just one hand in his pocket, Ryan took one out. He watched Joe and walked with big steps. When Joe puts on his hat, then Ryan wants a hat, too. We need to find a little hat his size, because he wears an old one that is too big for him and he won’t give it up. When we leave for church, he cries that he can’t take that big old black hat with him. One of the first things he does when he comes is go for the hat (it was Dustin’s old church hat). At home, Susan lets him wear Mose’s hat.
Ryan always loved Grandpa as his favorite, and one time Mose told Joe, “Ryan looks up to you a lot.” How little did we think that Mose might not be here to raise his son. God makes no mistakes. He has a plan, and we can’t question his ways.
We decided to let daughter Elizabeth and Tim buy our eight-year-old miniature pony, Prancer, as well as the little pony wagon and his harness. Oh, how thrilled Abigail, 4, and T.J., 2, were to be able to have a pony. Prancer is a very calm pony. Daughter Susan trained him six years ago. She didn’t want a pony until Jennifer and Ryan are older, so we let Tim and Elizabeth take him. He will get so much more attention from the little children. Daughter Lovina, 16, had fun riding him when she was little. She and Kevin drove him around here a lot, but now they are much too big for Prancer. How time flies, and so many changes.
Elizabeth said when Tim pulls their buggy in their garage, T.J. pulls the pony wagon in beside the buggy. He says he wants “his” buggy beside daddy’s buggy.
I hope I don’t overdo talking about my grandchildren. They are just so precious to me.
Joe and I were home alone on Friday night, as all the children were leaving to one place or another. It makes us feel older when everyone is out of the house. Tim and Elizabeth and Susan brought their children here while they went to get more supplies for Susan’s house. With five little ones to care for, we didn’t get bored: two one-year-olds, a two-year-old, a three-year-old, and a four-year-old. They kept us on our toes, but it made me see how much our children entertain the grandchildren when they are home.
Joe loves to look for the needle in the Country magazine, and the little ones loved the pictures. They enjoy looking at books, or if we read to them.
With the rhubarb growing very fast this spring, try these rhubarb dumplings.
God bless!
Rhubarb Dumplings
Dough:
2 cups flour
2 tablespoons sugar
2 teaspoons baking powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
2 1/2 tablespoons cold butter
3/4 cup milk
Filling:
2 tablespoons butter, softened
2 cups finely chopped rhubarb
1/2 cup sugar
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
Sauce:
1 1/2 cups sugar
1 1/2 cups water
1 tablespoon flour
1/3 cup butter
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon vanilla
In a saucepan, combine the sauce ingredients (except the vanilla) and bring to a boil; cook and stir continuously for 1 minute. Remove from heat, add vanilla, and set aside. For the dough, in a medium bowl combine flour, sugar, baking powder, and salt. Cut in butter until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Add milk and mix together, being careful not to over-mix. Gather dough into a ball and on a floured surface roll out into a 12×9 inch rectangle. Spread with softened butter; arrange rhubarb on top. Combine sugar and cinnamon and sprinkle over rhubarb. Roll up from the long side and place on a cutting board, seam side down. Cut roll into 12 slices. Arrange slices, cut side up, in a greased 13x9x2 inch baking dish. Pour sauce over slices. Bake at 350 degrees for 35-40 minutes or until golden brown. Serves 12.
Lovina’s Amish Kitchen is written by Lovina Eicher, Old Order Amish writer, cook, wife, and mother of eight. Her newest cookbook, Amish Family Recipes, is available wherever books are sold. Readers can write to Eicher at PO Box 1689, South Holland, IL 60473 (please include a self-addressed stamped envelope for a reply); or email LovinasAmishKitchen@MennoMedia.org and your message will be passed on to her to read. She does not personally respond to emails.
I so understand how your heart is hurting for your daughter’s loss. Unfortunately, I’ve experienced this twice. In 2001, my middle daughter’s husband died of pancreatic cancer 11 weeks after diagnosis, and in 2014, my youngest girl lost her husband to complications of sleep apnea. Both men were only 43. Watching them in such deep emotional pain just about undid me.
The girls are both doing well now. Neither had children with their husbands, The middle daughter is now happily married to a good Christian man, after quite a few years of finding her way back to enjoying life, and my youngest has shown how strong she is, living alone in a tiny cottage in the backyard of an elderly woman, sewing and doing nice things for her friends, and enjoying her dog, who is a wonderful companion. She has a special friend who knew her late husband, and who understands how deeply she is still grieving…they have no marriage plans, they are dear friends and he is very kind to her. Her heart was badly broken when she’s lost Larry, and she still misses him terribly.
Two girls with a similar experience with two different stories…
They both have supportive loving friends, and a strong Faith…and this is good. But as a mom, how I wish my youngest could find happiness again.
I pray your Susan will one day wake up, and be able to think of Mose and smile with the memory, rather than experience pain. My youngest is getting there slowly…Fewer sad days, more laughter. God is good.
May He bless your family.
I never get tired of reading about your grandchildren! I know how precious they are to you, as mine are to me! I feel so sorry for daughter Susan. How hard it must be for her! I pray she will keep going and that she finds joy in the future.
I don’t think Lovina talks too much about her grandchildren. I love to hear about all their little adventures. I also find comfort in her and her family’s faith and trust in the Lord . I lost a son age 19 in an automobile accident and ten years later my husband passed away at age 50. I don’t think I would be able to make it with out my trust in the Lord. I admire the strong support her family has for one another. God Bless Livonia and her family.
Having “big” children, I love your stories about your grandchildren! Please do not worry about overdoing it.
Thank you for the rhubarb recipe – I always appreciate new ways to enjoy my very prolific rhubarb plant.
Lea